HAROLD BRIENES, Collaborative & Mediation

GOING TO COURT WON’T SOLVE YOUR FAMILY PROBLEMS

By Harold Brienes, Collaborative Attorney & Mediator

• Only you and your spouse or domestic partner have the right to set the goals that will determine your future.

 

• Your job is to identify the interests and needs you both have that will help you achieve those goals.

 

• My job as your impartial mediator or collaborative lawyer is to help both of you examine your choices and negotiate a fair agreement based on those interests and needs.

 

• Together, we will brainstorm different options based on your interests, in order to find the ones that will fit you best and bring you both closer to the best possible outcome for each of you, and your children.

 

• NO LITIGATION: After many years of "going to court" with divorcing couples, it became clear to me that families who litigate are more often in worse shape after the court battle is over than they were before it began. That’s because litigation pits the couple against themselves, attacking each other, instead of uniting them in attacking their problems. It does that by taking the divorce or the family problem away from the people involved and giving it to their lawyers to solve. Then, each litigating lawyer tries to get as much of the family resources as possible for his own client by taking them away from the other lawyer’s client. That’s family warfare and it reduces both of you to mere bit players in the most important drama of your lives. And if your lawyers - who now own your divorce - can’t decide what’s best for you, a stranger in a black robe will make those decisions and you will have to live with them for a long, long time.

 

THERE IS A BETTER WAY. COMPARE LITIGATION WITH MEDIATION AND COLLABORATIVE TO SEE HOW TRULY EMPOWERING MEDIATION AND COLLABORATIVE CAN BE. PRESS THIS LINK TO FIND OUT FOR YOURSELF. THEN CALL OR SEND ME AN E-MAIL TO ASK DISCUSS WHETHER YOU CAN BENEFIT FROM DIVORCE MEDIATION, MARITAL MEDIATION OR COLLABORATIVE.